Lately I've been hearing bout couples not working out or fighting over silly things and so on. Usually we attribute all this "cat and dog" fighting to the relationship moving from the "honeymoon stage" to the real nitty gritty. This period you start realizing that your girlfriend actually bends funny when she walks or could just be a little more caring and cook instead of always wanting to eat out. At this point you realize your boyfriend isn't conscientious with his money, he is just plain stingy, and that "distant cousin" that keeps calling him has more than family interest in mind. It boggles my mind how people get so carried away with that first spark and fall so quickly in love without keeping in mind that it won't always be "I love yous" and 5 hour midnight conversations the whole time. I was thinking wouldn't it be nice if each person before starting a relationship could actually remove the cloud of love from their eyes and discuss what their expectations are?? When it's all said and done no one wants a worthless person by their side all because she looks so good in that red dress or cause he knows how to do that thing so well in the boudoir…..
When one is hired on to a job the first thing you have to go through is an orientation. The boss will go through the job description with you, what he expects from you, how your task should be done and the reward for a job well done or the consequences of falling short. This way both of you reach an agreement, there are no misunderstandings and at the same time you are given the opportunity to let him/her know what you expect from him as a manager. If something does happen along the line both of you can refer back to that initial discussion and it's easy to resolve the matter….
When you buy a new camera…it comes with a manual. This manual explains to you the features of the camera, how to use it to get its maximum potential, and how to troubleshoot it if something malfunctions. This manual is a preview of the camera…if you read it and it doesn't meet your expectations you can still return it for a refund…..if you have your receipt of course!!!
The first day of that infamous organic chemistry course; your professor hands you a syllabus for the class. This will detail the topics you will go over the next few months, the tests, assignments, and projects that will be expected from you. You will also be told how you will be graded. Attendance policy, possibility of extra credit, any possible office hours all this is detailed right at the beginning of class.
Sooo imagined you chose to ignore what your boss man told you on the first day…or he failed to even go over his expectations at all? Imagine if you didn't open the manual of that 500 bucks camera until the day it stopped working and then you realize that you've been using it the wrong way. Imagine if your organic chemistry professor never told you what was expected of you until the end of the semester and you end up with a fail. What am I driving at????
Every relationship and every association is bonded by an agreement of expectations. Imagine if we went into a relationship already knowing what the partner expects from us. It would be soo much easier. We are so consumed in playing the act that we're "perfect" forgetting that one's true behavior is like a smoke…it can't be contained for too long. So be real…sit her down let her know you like a lady who can cook ; sit him down let him know you love presents every Friday whether there is a celebration or not. I met this one guy who has been dating a girl for 5 years and they agreed from the beginning that he is not a "one girl type of guy". She accepted and from day 1 understood that he can't be at her beck and call 24/7. The couple got engaged just recently and about to be married. He said the girl understanding him then made him realize that she was the only one he wanted for the rest of his life. SOOOO people people people before you decide to sign on that dotted line called love and dating…take the time to read and understand the terms and conditions………..
SOO WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MOI????
2 comments:
uhmmmmmmmm!wat can i say?i must say u are indeed great,i feel this shld be published in magazines and all dat so d general public could read and get inspired.u rily inspired me and u knw wat?u changed my orientations entirely .i mean my negative ones orientations dat 1 can't get a relationship goin.yes u were truely rite wen u said "understanding plays a very crucial role"and i ave decided to practise this.
i give u kudos and i must say once again dat "u are indeed great".thanks for this piece,i luv it.
very interesting piece, i concur dis needs to be published.... (**wink wink**)
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